Are there any ways to prevent or tolerate anxiety from stimulants?

I've been fining that I have an anxiety problem in the last year or so. Stimulants really trigger it, or from being way overwhelmed. And I do have add or something like it. And the meds do really help get me going a little, but there's just huge waves of anxiety, and theres the only non stimulant, stratera for add. But of course I got some bad side effects. It was okay except the fact that it caused painful ejaculation, which isn't worth it. And some nausea. But the only way I've found so far to tolerate stimulants is pot, or alcohol. And I don't want to be smoking or drinking all day. I can't even smoke a cigarette unless im under the influence. Or I get panic attacks. Wtf should I do? I don't want to take a multitude of meds just to feel normal. I want the add meds because when not on them, I do feel considerably more dumb and forgetful. I've been med free for like 3 weeks now